I do cs in college and I am behind. I've never felt so depressed in my entire life. I try so hard to understand and I want this.

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I just wish I could enjoy this as much as i want to but every day I wake up feeling low and cry myself to sleep every night. Like it's that serious. I also have no friends so I'm trying to harness My coding skills specifically in C++ but it's like I'm stuck and can't think straight through a problem. I just really need help like this has made me feel like I don't even want to be here anymore sometimes. If someone could give me study tips maybe and like how long I should try to practice everyday or maybe a route to take tok better understand c++ or solving a problem specifically. I just feel lost and really need help at this point. I'm so depressed about it. I also literally have no friends and maybe this isn't the platform to express my pain but at this point I'm on edge.I just want to be successful..

Answer 1

Code Gamer hey
hey there, my steam invite never got accepted. it's okay if you have reconsidered being friends on steam. I just wanted to check in.

Answer 2

Hi code gamer, it can be stressful when beginning a new chapter, especially education while young. I dropped out of university 3 times before I started on maths which I finished. I quit all those times due feeling useless, stupid, and had no social contact.

I will suggest that you simply hang out at the library or other study places where you don't have to interact with other people, in case this is stressful to you, - good friendships evolve naturally over long periods. I promise you that others feel like you do, it's just a matter of finding those people! Become what you do, remove external distractions, delete Facebook, and just be at the university all the time! It may sound ridiculous, but when you have spent every evening the first semester at the library, I'm sure you will have made new friends.

Hang in there and stick to the narrative that you are learning and doing your absolute best during the process, instead of thinking about the endgoal right away.

Answer 3

Hey Code Gamer,
First let me state that I am very new to programming and have only just started learning as a hobby. So I'm not much help with how to study or succeed with C++.

But I have gone through college, been depressed, and had no friends before. That's really hard and I feel for you man. Hang in there.
Programming can be really frustrating, especially when other people seem so much better then you. Its not an easy skill to develop and it takes time. College is extremely stressful as well :(.

I went to college convinced I was going to be a psychologist, but about two thirds of the way through I realized that while I loved psychology, being an actual psychologist was not that attractive anymore, and too intense for me. I ended at a job that has alot to do with psychology, but I did not have to become a psychologist.

Don't be afraid or ashamed of keeping your options open, there are more jobs in computer science then just programming. That being said, I have full confidence you can learn and master programming if thats what you choose.

Making friends is hard for me as well, and that is super discouraging. I feel ya there. If you want, add me on steam or discord. Maybe we can find some time to talk or just relax and play some games together or something. Let me know and a Ill send you my username. I hope some part of this helped, hang in there!

Answer 4

Yea I don't think of it as work, I just need help,like advice/guide.

Answer 5

As best as possible, I'm 19 so I understand that I have to grow individually.

Answer 6

well then yes professional.

Answer 7

Yea man that sounds cool , which one are you on more steam or discord? I'll make an account and add the username

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Code Gamer
I'm on steam more often for sure, my user name is the same as sololearn: djjohnsongeek

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Aditya Khandelwal I'ma add you lol

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No worries man you are busy :)

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Bro I didn't see it in pending invites but I searched your account and found you. You have 7 badges right? When I try to add you it says " your account does not meet the requirements to use this feature" I'm guessing I have to be at a certain level. Can you resend. Remember my user is " Mainiyack"

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Okay idk what is wrong with steam. I sent you my discord account name in solo learn messenger

Answer 13

I was asking like how long should I study/practice for everyday and like studying tips aka a guide to becoming better. I've messaged the cord thing so I'll see what they say.

Answer 14

I'll add both of you and thanks again

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thanks Morten, I really appreciate it. I think my problem is the external which is like procrastination and distractions as well. id be distracted and start thinking about my past and my present life troubles and it would get me in my feels. I appreciate it man I'll try harder and spend more time at the uni. the library here is a pretty cool setup.

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hey djjohnsongeek add me on steam. My user is "Mainiyack"

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aditya my name is mainiyack as well on discord so you'll see my request. Aditya Khandelwal

Answer 18

I sent an invite Code Gamer

Answer 19

I haven't reconsidered, I don't see the request. can u resend it and tell me where to look to accept it?

Answer 20

Code Gamer okay I've resent it. check your friends tab, look for pending invites. if you don't see it try adding me; "djjohnsongeek"